Take Your Sex Life From Mediocre To Mindblowing With These 7 Potent Tips
Some sex is so-so. Some is spectacular. But it actually doesn’t take much effort to turn a routine romp into a mind-blowing experience.
Many people assume it’s a lost cause when sex starts to get boring and just go through the motions, says Sadie Allison, author of Ride ‘Em Cowgirl! Sex Position Secrets for Better Bucking. “But it’s definitely possible to initiate change in the middle of sex,” she says.
Here are seven ways you can transform OK sex into a night you’ll both never forget. (And for more in-depth techniques——check out the Big Black book of Sex, the ultimate sex manual from the editors of Men’s Health.)
Make Eye Contact
Locking eyes is one of the most effective ways to instantly boost lust.
“Looking at each other deepens your emotional connection, which in turn, amplifies your arousal,” says Allison.
Aim to stare into each other’s eyes for a minimum of 60 seconds or throughout the entire tryst. This can feel intense, but stick with it.
“The longer you go, the more bonded you’ll feel,” she says.
Play with each other’s erogenous zones until you can barely stand it. “Getting close to orgasm without a release builds sexual tension,” says Allison.
So when you finally explode—you can expect fireworks.
Get Up Close And Personal
For intimate sex, prop your pillows against the headboard, sit up with your back against it and have her straddle you.
Hold each other and make out, says Allison. All that skin-to-skin contact will make you feel closer and heat things up fast.
Try A New Location
Stop what you’re doing, and lead her to the kitchen counter, living room couch, bathroom sink, staircase, wherever—just outside the bedroom.
“The change of scenery is exciting, and it feels a little freaky to be getting it on somewhere besides a bed,” says Allison.
Amp Up Your Senses
Grab one of her scarves or your tie, and take turns blindfolding each other. “When you remove one sense, the rest are enhanced,” says Allison.
Translation: Every touch will feel even more potent. You can also play some sexy music on your phone and pop your headphones in her ears.
She’ll be in her own world while making love to you, says Allison. Then have her pick tunes for you.
Slip And Slide
Never underestimate the transformative power of lube. It’s not just for women with dryness—it can lead to hotter, longer sex for anyone, says Allison.
By reducing friction and heightening sensation, you can slide along her nerve endings more quickly, leading to extra stimulation, she says.
When you apply it, treat her to a sultry below-the-belt massage.
Try A N0-Fail Foreplay Move
Roll onto your back, and have her assume the 69 position, suggests Allison. This move can be an exciting surprise—especially if you haven’t done it in a while, she says. However, some women can feel intimidated by this position, so make sure she’s comfortable with it.
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