Your Sex Questions Answered
EVERYONE SAYS THAT MASTURBATING EARLY IN THE DAY HELPS SEX LAST LONGER THAT NIGHT. SOUNDS TOO EASY. DOES IT WORK?
Potentially, yes. It depends in part on your natural refractory period. If you can go multiple times in a row, then morning masturbation may have little effect. If you have a more moderate refractory period, then you may find that morning masturbation sets up your night-time sex for a great start. During masturbation, visualize lasting longer during intercourse. It’s also a great time to practice the stop-start technique — bringing yourself to the verge of orgasm and then stopping and waiting for it to subside. This is one of the most reliable ways of learning to control the timing of your ejaculation.
HOW CAN MY GIRL AND I GET THE THRILL OF PUBLIC SEX WITHOUT BEING ARRESTED?
Be smart. Use your backyard, go for a hike in dense woods, or find a hotel room with thin drapes. Any of these will spike your risk sensors and increase your body’s awareness of all sensations, from a housekeeper’s knock to your girlfriend’s slightest touch. Another option is to go digital. Putting yourselves on camera can give both of you the same highs–the heavy breathing, the increased heart rate–that we associate with the fear of being caught.
MY GIRLFRIEND ISN’T FLEXIBLE ENOUGH FOR MY FAVORITE POSITIONS. WHAT CAN WE DO?
Correction: Your girlfriend isn’t flexible enough yet. Most people can limber up in 6 weeks, so start practicing. Tell her you love your sex life, and show her what you could do if you were both more supple. Aim to achieve one position she likes, as well as one you want. Stretch together–it can double as foreplay. Finally, if her body simply can’t comply, develop a new favorite position–the possibilities are endless and orgasmically good. Trust me.