8 Quickie Fantasies And How To Do Them Right
She opened the door for him. She’d barely kissed him hello before he turned her around, bent her over the kitchen counter, and pulled her tights down. Minutes later, it was all over but the panting.
That was no fantasy – it was me and my boyfriend, just a typical Netflix-and-tracksuit-pants kind of couple. But we like to have fun. We went out to eat that night, laughing over inside jokes. I’m sure his mind drifted back to our quickie. I know mine did. Done right, quickies can be a thrill. See how.
Fantasy: Hotel room
Reality: Living room
Or anywhere you don’t consider sexy. “Novelty is associated with hotter sex and greater desire,” says sex therapist Shannon Chavez. “Make an ‘intimacy fort’ in the living room, built-in cupboard, laundry room… anywhere but the bedroom.”
It’s great outdoors: Sex without walls engages the senses and heightens arousal, as does the risk of getting caught. Do it on your back deck – or in the car before walking into a party. You’ll have a shared secret while you’re there.
Fantasy: Shower sex!
Reality: Not so easy!
Use the shower for foreplay (a good place for oral, both ways) and then move to the countertop. (There’s a mirror!) Or surprise her as she exits the shower, says Joel Block, author of The Art of the Quickie. Take her towel and start kissing her neck.
If you insist: The best way to have shower sex (or toilet stall sex, you freaks) is for her to stand with her back to you, legs spread, her hands against the wall. Shallow thrusts let you hit the first third of the vagina, the most sensitive part.
Fantasy: Perfect moment
Quickies solve a big obstacle to having sex – finding the time. For me, evenings at home are sacred. Sure I want an orgasm – but I also want to do an eight step skin-care regimen and read the thriller that’s been on my bedside table for months.
Rise early: “Mornings are great. That’s when testosterone, the hormone behind sexual desire, is highest for both sexes,” Chavez says. “It improves my mood for the rest of the day,” says Carol, 43. “Daily frustrations seem less annoying.”
Fantasy: It’s spontaneous
Reality: Foreplay helps
She can’t go from zero to boner like you can, so give her a head start. Kiss, hold hands, whisper in her ear. I’ve never been more turned on than when my boyfriend leaned over at a crowded party and whispered exactly what he wanted to do to me.
Work out together: “Endorphins are high; your natural scent comes out. It’s the perfect jumping-off point, even at the gym if you can,” says Chavez. Kiss her where her arm and armpit meet – it’s a sensory region loaded with pheromones.
Fantasy: It’s pure sex
Reality: It’s a connection
Animals love quickies: “Chimps don’t want to be interrupted by the next guy in line,” says anthropologist Helen Fisher. “For humans, any genital stimulation drives dopamine to the brain and pushes people over the threshold into romantic love.”
Touch her all over: “Quickies are all about physical embrace, touch, and connection,” says Chavez. That leads to trust and closeness. Focus on her body. Afterwards, ask what she liked and take mental notes. Communication bonds you.
Fantasy: She’s into it
Reality: It’s true!
That need-you-now urgency is hot, plus brevity keeps us in the moment. No drifting off, thinking about work or snacks. “And when silly things happen, like the chair falling over or bumping heads, it’s easier to laugh with someone I trust,” says Emily, 23.
Make it happen (again): Bring up the last quickie, Chavez suggests. “Memories can evoke desire.” Just one steamy sex session can have a huge impact on her brain’s memory, emotion, and reward centres. Result: she’ll be wired to want more.
Fantasy: It’s full-on sex
Reality: Doesn’t have to be
A quickie doesn’t have to mean full-blown intercourse. “Don’t restrict yourselves to just penetration,” says Claire Cavanah, coauthor of Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex. “Mouths, hands, and fingers count too.”
Keep your clothes on: It’s hot; plus, the clothing offers new sensations. Emily Morse of the podcast Sex with Emily suggests softly stroking and touching over her underwear. “The fabric provides extra friction, amplifying the feel.”
Fantasy: She has an orgasm
Reality: Yeah, maybe
The key to mutual orgasms is switching it up – something that’s often lacking during quickies. “Orgasm is a release of sexual tension,” says Cavanah. “To get there, you have to build that tension.” Take a few precious minutes to warm her up.
Just do it: That said, she doesn’t always expect to finish. “Even if I don’t climax, I’ve still had fun and satisfied my partner,” says Rachael, 25. “I know he’ll get me next time.” Orgasmic zenith or no, she sometimes prefers a sprint to a marathon.