8 Quick Foreplay Lessons
Kiss and Lick Her Hinges
You’ve got the obvious kiss spots covered. Now concentrate your efforts elsewhere—on her elbows, knees, shoulders, ankles, neck, and hip joints. “They’re rarely attended to with long caresses,” says Davidson. “It’s a super sensation.” See if you can make her come unhinged.
Chocolate syrup and whipped cream get all the kinky play in movies. Instead, turn her body into a juicer. “The best foods for sex are fruits that you can rub onto the body, such as soft mango or papaya,” says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., Ed.D., a sex therapist in California and author of 12 Steps to Everlasting Love. “Then devour both her and the fruit.” Get sticky, shower, repeat. If you’re Mickey Rourke, skip the shower.
Forget coffee and toast—bring hot chocolate (a sexual stimulant for her) and raspberries and strawberries to bed. The berries replenish the zinc you lose when you ejaculate—5 milligrams, or a third of your daily requirement.
Try the No-Move Move
When you start foreplay, tell her you’re not going to move on to another action until she tells you what to do next. This works physically and mentally: It’s a way to encourage her to open up and direct you to what she really wants. Now, your turn.
Give Her a Massage
But make it interesting:
• In hot weather, roll a chilled can of soda along the backs of her thighs.
• In cool weather, warm a towel in the microwave for 10 seconds and massage her with it.
• Season her belly with a little salt, and then slowly lick it off. Add tequila to taste.
• Turn winter gloves inside out, put them on, and massage her with the soft side.
Give Her Chills
“Cold is sensed by more nerve endings than mere touch can reach, so you’re expanding her range of response,” says Phillip Hodson, a British sex therapist. Do this: Chill a bunch of grapes for at least 20 minutes. Then trail a small sprig of them along her neck, nipples, and inner thighs. Nibble away. Now put a grape in your mouth and gently press it against her clitoris by holding it in your teeth or between your lips.
Here’s a master class in the notoriously tricky art of bath sex. Start by slinging in a generous quantity of bath gel, advises Anne Hooper, a sex therapist and author of Ultimate Sex Guide. Fill the tub with 5 inches of hot water, then pour more foaming bath gel onto your bellies, chests, and legs. Have her lie on top of you and use her body as a scrub brush. To add to the fun, throw in a set of Rub-a-Dub Dice—floating foam cubes that, when “rolled,” reveal sexy commands like “sponge belly” or “kiss back”—or a Rubba Ducky, a vibrating bath massager you’ll both enjoy. Both are available at mypleasure.com.
Rub Her Down
For extra shower power, pour a couple of drops of shower gel into a spray bottle and mix it with water. Spray her, then rub. She’ll feel three different types of stimulation—the steady pelting of the shower, the soft spray of the soapy gel, and the firm caresses of your hands. That’s the kind of threesome that turns her on.