It’s not the short duration of lovemaking that frustrates women, but rather focusing too intensely on lasting longer that gets to them.

This according to a survey of 1 500 women from Mexico, Italy and South Korea that was published in the The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

A statement concerning the study reads, “For the majority of the women polled, satisfying sexuality does not only consist of sexual intercourse, but also includes kissing, caressing and other forms of sexual stimulation, which are considered equally important. If the man is primarily preoccupied with his problem, premature ejaculation and thus his performance, these needs are ignored.”

The study concludes that while sex has become more about how much time is spent in intercourse, most women are more concerned with what happens in and around sexual intercourse.

In other words gents, foreplay, kissing and giving her attention are, as always, very important to her.

“Interestingly, lengthy coitus is primarily important for women who do not have any trouble climaxing,” says sex researcher Andrea Burri.

For women who do not usually climax, sex served more to “establish and experience intimacy and commitment”. Which is very important because the survey revealed that an otherwise “harmonious relationship” often ends because of a women’s “psychological strain” and “bottled up frustration.”

In case you’re worried about lasting longer, check out these four tips from our article: Last Longer In Bed Than Hugh Heffner.