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The Transformers star shows you how to create, and maintain, the right kind of relationship
Show her she’s helpful
If you’re having a problem, your mate wants to help – but only if you show her you’re taking her advice seriously. “If she can’t support him, and she’s tried and tried, then maybe it’s not going to work out,” Huntington-Whiteley says. So when a woman gives you advice, follow up a few days later by telling her how you’ve implemented her suggestions or at least thought about what she said. It’ll make her feel more like part of the solution.
“A woman wants someone who makes her feel good about who she is,” Huntington-Whiteley says, even if you’d like her to change some detail. Everyone has relationship troubles, but putting her on the defensive isn’t a solution. Instead, show her you’re invested in the relationship. Then, reveal your concerns. “That’s why it’s always good to start a conversation like, ‘I love it when you do this’, and ‘wouldn’t it be great if…’ ”
Have patience for the pay-off
Once you’ve come together to solve a problem, don’t expect your relationship to immediately snap back to the way it was. That’s especially true with sex. “A woman doesn’t just turn a switch and feel turned on,” Huntington-Whiteley says. “You have to work at it, and you have to make her feel good. It might take longer than 10 seconds sometimes, so be a gentleman. And be gentle.”