Don’t freak out if you can’t perform. In our survey, women ranked equipment failure as a “medium low” worry. Ian Kerner, a sex counsellor and coauthor of The Big, Fun, Sexy Sex Book, explains how to stay in the game. (For persistent problems, see a doctor – the cause may be physical.) Here’s how to outsmart your penis

You finish too fast
If you’re about to lose it, stop thinking about your penis, pull out and play with her breasts or clitoris. If it’s too late, just return the favour.

You can’t keep it up
Turn your focus from your problem to her body, and then try something different. Switch from intercourse to oral, for example.

You can’t orgasm
Again, stop thinking about your penis. Go down on her and when you’re ready to give it another go, amp things up with a new position.