Talk it out, people. During sex, many women are hesitant to ask for clitoral stimulation or to stimulate themselves, although men would love both options. In 
a Canadian study, men in 
a male-only focus group 
had an “extremely positive” reaction to the idea of a woman asking for stimulation or touching herself. But in their own focus group, women said they feared hurting the guy’s self-esteem, says author 
Dr Claire M.A. Salisbury. 
The fix: encourage her!