Being ravaged in front 
of a roaring fire is many women’s fantasy. Spread your warmest blanket in front of the hearth, then warm her up: sit facing each other, fully clothed, and take turns shedding one item of clothing at a time. “Meditate on each other – not touching, just looking,” says Dr Carole Altman, author of Sex: How To Tell Your Lover Exactly What You Want, Exactly When You Want It (R238, Kalahari). “Firelight is very flattering and protective, so most women will feel comfortable exposing their bodies.”