It’s a common story. Compromise with strategic lighting. Here are some ideas from Candida Royalle, an award-winning director of erotica for women.

Use lamplight

It’s not as harsh as overhead lighting and makes naked skin look better.

Light a candle

…or put that lamp behind an irregular object, like a plant. You’ll create oddly shaped shadows, making the lighting unthreatening and part of the fun.

Use a lowwatt, amber-hued bulb

“Amber neutralises the blues of blemishes and tired eyes, and gives skin a warm, soft, creamy look,” says Royalle.