We’re not talking about the gooey kind of love, although you might get the good kind of gooey out of this. This is about getting her to ride you like you’re seabiscuit. The thing is, even if you love that view of her, some women just find it unflattering. If you’re struggling to get her on top, use some of that enthusiasm. Make a sexual trade – blind fold her as you execute whatever her desire might be; then don the blindfold yourself when it’s time for your cowgirl to return the favour. Once she’s a little more relaxed and lost whatever the fear is of being watched, she can acknowledge how empowering it is to be in the driving seat and watch the pleasure on your face.