STATE YOUR CASE

Some women feel threatened by porn, so reassure her. Say this: “Look, I’m happy with our sex life, but let’s try this once – just for inspiration. It’s something we can enjoy together.”

GO NATURAL

Surgically enhanced female bodies can turn women off, so jointly peruse porn on sites like www.xtube.com. Find videos that use wide angles rather than genital close-ups, because full bodies (and faces in particular) help women identify with and feel like the turned-on women in the video.

FIND THE STORY

Pornmoviesforwomen. com has a list of women-friendly flicks that have stories. These help give women context for sex (valuable because women tend to pair arousal with relationships) and time to ease into the sex scenes.