More Useful Stuff
No. 1 Exercise together
University of Texas researchers found that vigorous exercise activates a woman’s sympathetic nervous system, which is also activated during sexual arousal. So both her body and her brain are in the mood.
No. 2 Use a vibrator
In her 2009 study Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., M.P.H., found that vibrators are linked to positive sexual function, such as desire and ease of orgasm. Intimidated? Don’t be.
No. 3 Use lube
A 2011 study from Indiana University linked lube use with greater sexual pleasure and comfort.
No. 4 Mindfulness
Women are more likely than men to be distracted while having sex. Canadian research found that by focusing on the sights, sounds, and feelings of sex, women have greater desire and arousal.
No. 5 Coital Alignment Technique
This position—the man shifts forward to press the base of his penis against her clitoris—can make it easier for her to have an orgasm.
No. 6 Cuddle, kiss, touch
But don’t have sex. According to Kinsey Institute research, women often think kissing means he’s looking for sex. Removing that pressure leads to greater relationship satisfaction for men.
No. 7 Do something new together
Novelty sparks hormones in the brain similar to those released when you were falling in love, concluded a study at SUNY-Stony Brook.
No. 8 Do chores together
Women bear the brunt of household chores. And in study after study, women have said that they find it a turn-on when their partner pitches in to help.
No. 9 Multitask in bed
A national survey from Indiana University found that doing at least four or five sexual acts at each session was a strong predictor of orgasm. That could mean they just spent more time having sex—or that variety is exciting. Our opinion: Do your own research.