By MH Staff - Posted on 1st December 2014
MH Girl Next Door answers four sensitive relationship questions.
Absolutely. If the tables were turned, she’d feel uncomfortable too. Don’t attack – that’ll only lead to defensiveness and awkwardness. Say, “I love that you get along with my friends, but when you two chat all day, I feel left out.” The fact that she doesn’t have anything to hide is a good sign; you don’t want her to start doing things behind your back.
If you’re an arrogant jerk about it, then yes. If it’s because a relationship would mess with your Xbox time or you’re happy still living with your parents, then yes. But if you’re simply postponing a serious relationship because you know you’re not ready, you want to travel or focus on your career, then no. It’s a turn-on when a guy is sure about who he is, has goals and is motivated. Besides, there are women who want no strings attached too. Be upfront and sure of your decision long-term: don’t change your tune just to get laid. There will also be women who aren’t prepared to wait around.
There’s no perfect timeline – for any relationship milestones – but it’s worth thinking it through properly. Are you just tired of her roommate or keen to save some money since you’re always at her place anyway? If your motivations are selfless and for the best of your relationship, go for it. More important than whether you’ve been together for 18 months or five years, is communication. Be prepared for space, time and financial negotiations.
Depends on your relationship. Is she generally jealous and insecure? Does she say it often? In general, it’s safer to say something neutral. Lying is not good, though (“Oh, where, I didn’t see her?”). Pointing out an actress on TV is one thing, but if she’s saying it a lot when you’re out in public, it could be a test that’s revealing a deeper issue: she’s aware that your eyes are constantly scanning the room. Pay her some attention.