Much of life is filled with long, comfortable stretches of predictability. But then – sometimes suddenly – everything falls apart. You need to Adapt and Conquer!. Guys who can’t adapt fall behind, but guys who can adapt start right in on their next challenge. The secret, says Laurie Calzada, author of 180 Ways to Effectively Deal with Change, is to be proactive. “You have to manage change,” she says. “You can’t let it manage you.”
By MH Staff - Posted on 6th November 2013
Much of life is filled with long, comfortable stretches of predictability. But then – sometimes suddenly – everything falls apart. Here’s what you need to know.
1 You Were Dumped
Now Recover From It
You need to perform an autopsy on your dead relationship. “The best thing you can do for yourself and any future loved one is to find the closure you need to move on,” says Calzada. So write two lists – one with all the things you did well as a boyfriend, and one with all the ways you screwed up. Now make a conscious decision to keep the good and ditch the bad. “The next time a similar situation arises, you’ll be prepared to handle it.”
2 You’re Moving Cross-Country
Minimise the Stress
Again, think in terms of manageable chunks. “Look at the changes you’ll need to make and then take them on in 10% increments,” says Calzada. Start by writing out everything you have to accomplish. That could include scheduling a yard sale, picking up cardboard boxes, or arranging for broadband service at the new pad. If your list has 50 chores, finish the first five before moving on to the next five.
3 You Scored a Big New Job
Prepare to Nail
Your First Day
Start putting names to faces before you even walk through the door. “Use social media platforms to get ahead of the game,” says Calzada. Then apply the law of three: “On day one, learn three new things each hour. These will range from where the bathrooms are to what time you eat lunch to specific details about the job.” After that, keep learning at least three new things a day until you feel comfortable with your new role.