A more perfect you starts with knowing what you suck at.
Failure sucks, but your reaction to it may be even worse. A study in the Journal of Applied Psychology shows that when women were given the opportunity to take a test twice, they substantially improved their scores the second time. Men didn’t. In fact, men tend to ignore negative feedback. The reason is evolutionary, says Dr Paul Dobransky, director of menspsychology.com. “If men in tribal societies stopped to worry about every mistake they made while hunting, they’d be vulnerable to predators,” he explains. Your weaknesses could put your job in danger. The next time you screw up, write down a strategy for improvement. Then do it.
When’s the last time you paid a visit to your doctor’s office? Research shows that men are typically hesitant about going to doctors or seeking counseling from psychologists. “Men have a natural, instinctual shame about seeking help,” says Dobransky. “It’s putting salt in a wound to seek help.” But sometimes, admitting that you need help – and improving your skills, longevity, and performance in the process – is the manliest thing of all.
Just because she’s looking doesn’t mean she wants you. Research published in the journal Psychological Science shows that men frequently overestimate women’s sexual interest. “This may serve as a means of displaying confidence and selling yourself as a high-quality mate,” explains study author Dr Carin Perilloux, an assistant professor of psychology at Union College. The problem is, you can seem creepy if you come on too strong. Your fix: Every time you go to a restaurant or a movie theater, observe how couples interact. Soon you’ll be a whiz at detecting subtle mating cues, Dobransky says.