TURN THE TABLES
When you’re faced with a loss or failure, think about the other areas of your life that are going well, says psychologist Randall Larsen. “Make a list of what you’re good at. This can put the bruises and bumps into perspective.”
TAP YOUR FRIENDSHIPS
Don’t isolate yourself after hearing bad news. Telling friends to leave you alone can make your depression even deeper. Instead, set time aside for socialising. “It can prolong a positive mood,” Larsen says, “or snap you out of a bad one.”
CAST TROUBLES AWAY
Take problems off your mind by writing them down, sealing them in a box and throwing the box away. Sure it sounds silly, but it can weaken the emotional impact of distressing events, says psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky.
LOOK FOR CONTEXT
Step back and appreciate what you have. People who keep in mind that others have it worse tend to feel less upset about their own circumstances, says Larsen. It’s not schadenfreude – it’s perspective.
– Heather Riske