“Keep your hands moving the whole time so the massage has a flow to it,” says massage therapist Susan Mumford.

1. Warm up

Have her sit in a comfortable chair with her shoulders and upper back exposed. Slick your hands with a little massage oil, stand behind her, place your hands on her shoulders and gently squeeze the muscles between your fingers and the heels of your palms for about three minutes.

2. Press in

Start pressing firmly with your index and middle fingers around the outline of each shoulder blade, alternating sides. Don’t drag your fingers – press in, release and then press again about two centimetres further around each time. Keep this going slowly and steadily for three minutes.

3. Start circling

With your fingers anchored over the crest of her shoulders, position your thumbs on the muscles on each side of her spine and then circle downwards over the muscles as far as your hands will stretch. (Never press directly on her spine.) Reverse direction and continue back up to the base of her skull.