Pinpoint the problem, share soothing words and then move on to the main course: intercourse

A. THE IN-LAWS

Say this “Let’s go outside for a few minutes.”
why this works Taking a walk with her or snuggling up on a lawn chair will remind her that, at the end of the day, it’s just the two of you. Worry about what works for you – not for your parents.

B. TRIVIAL MATTERS

Say this “I know you’re upset about [whatever], but it feels like there’s something else going on. Let’s talk about the other stuff.”
why this works If you think she’s overreacting, a larger issue is probably fuelling her rage. That’s what you need to know about – and calmly address.

C. PARENTING

Say this “We need to find a balance between being strict and flexible. When do you think we should be flexible?”
why this works Firm and flexible parenting styles can coexist – as long as you act together as a team. No one should always be the bad guy.

D. HELL IF I KNOW

Say this “Okay, let’s focus. What are a few things we could do differently here?”
why this works Sometimes she just needs to vent general dissatisfaction. Directing your energy toward action, not anger, can soothe her nerves.