Q: Why is it so difficult to get erect after the first round of sex?

This is completely normal, especially as you get older, says Dr. Kok.

“After erection, orgasm and ejaculation in men there’s a period of time (refractory or ”recovery phase”) in which it’s impossible to get erect again, orgasm or ejaculate. The younger you are, the shorter the refractory phase, the older – the longer. For young men it can be minutes, middle-aged men hours, and old men – days!

Men are not designed to go for more than one round. Rather focus on foreplay and loveplay and the journey with your partner than going at it round after round. It’s about quality and not quantity when it comes to mutual sexual satisfaction.”