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a.k.a. Coital Alignment Technique
Benefits: Strong clitoral stimulation. In one study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, women who were unable to have an orgasm in the missionary position reported a 56 percent increase in orgasm frequency using the coital alignment technique.
The CAT is just like the missionary except that your body is farther up and to one side. Instead of being chest to chest, your chest is near her shoulders. Have her bend her legs about 45 degrees to tilt her hips up. This causes the base of your shaft to maintain constant contact with her clitoris.
Now try this: Ask her to straighten her legs. Push your pelvis down a few inches while she pushes up.
Hot Tip — His
Instead of thrusting up and down, rock forward and back to, hopefully, provide enough stimulation for her to orgasm. Also try grinding your pelvis in a circular motion. Other studies suggest even greater success, with up to 73 percent of women achieving orgasm with CAT.
a.k.a. Over Your Shoulder, The Hamstring Stretch
Benefits: This position is ideal for women who are particularly sensitive along one side of the clitoris.
Kneel on the floor with her lying on the edge of the bed. Rasie one of her legs and ask her to support her leg by wrapping her hands around her hamstring just below the knee. With one hip raised, she’ll be able to add some movement to aid in your stroking or to help move you to the perfect spot.
Now try this: Encourage her to wriggle a little to help you get the rhythm right.
Hot Tip — Hers
Let him know the tongue pressure and technique you prefer by demonstrating with your mouth on his earlobe.
Hot Tip — His
During oral sex allow the knuckle of your finger to trail behind your tongue. The contrast between soft flesh of the tongue and hard bone of the finger will create a pleasing sensation.
The Hot Seat
a.k.a. The Love Seat, The Man Chair
Benefits: Good G-spot stimulation.
Sit on the edge of the bed or on a chair with your feet on the floor. She turns away and backs up onto you, sitting between your legs. She can ride back and forth by pushing off the chair arms or pressing up with her feet. She can control the angle of entry by arching her back and pressing her buttocks into your groin. While doggy-style is about your dominance, The Hot Seat puts her in the driver’s seat.
Now try this: She can reach under and stimulate the base of your penis, scrotum, and perineum. Meanwhile, you can reach around and stimulate her nipples.
Hot Tip — His
The best ways to help her get interested in sex when you can tell it’s the farthest thing from her mind: Draw her a bubble bath, give her a massage, wrestle.